“When you get to my day, every day is unday.” — Dad

I think he says it because he doesn’t know what day it is - he’s got Alzheimer’s. As I was thinking of “unday” I was reminded of a quote from “The Alchemist”.

“When each day is the same as the next, it’s because people fail to recognize the good things that happen in their lives every day that the sun rises.”

I spent the night sitting and talking with my sister and my friend of 20+ years.

We sat, we talked, we told stories, and we imagined stories we would tell.

A restful sleep, a lazy morning, and a dream about what stories I might hear today.

The “morning after” carries a negative connotation, but it shouldn’t.

The “morning after” a wonderful moment invites possibilities for more.

Thank you to my friend, and my sister for beautiful conversations.

Today, think of the thing you’ve always wanted to do this year and decide to do it.Next, go to the people you most admire and ask them to hold you accountable for doing that thing.Finally, start doing the thing. If you’re like most people, deciding to do things is easy. And if you’re like most people, telling everybody what you decided, why, and that you’ll be sharing your work with them - that’s hard. Hard because now you need to show up. Now you must persist.Courage and Bravery are the virtues you must summon to persist through the unknown, the daunting, and the things that are bigger than you. It takes a braver and courageous person to put themselves on the hook.I see you. I admire you.

And tired is okay.

Lot is going on; perhaps for you too.

Remember to take time to rest, laugh, and move.

Life is short.

From The Alchemist, “The future belongs to God; and it is only he who reveals it, under extraordinary circumstances. How do I guess at the future? Based on the omens of the present. The secret is here in the present. If you pay attention to the present, you can improve upon it. And, if you improve on the present what comes later will also be better. Forget about the future… Each day, in itself, brings with it an eternity.”The future belongs to fate, and fate will reveal herself to us under extraordinary circumstances. But unless that happens, all you have are the omens of now. How you decide and what you do now will open the door to a better future. Each moment brings with it an eternity. I finished reading The Alchemist and there is no better book to start off a year than that. That quote above, whether you believe in a god or not, can quickly set the tone for your day.

Your parents are the child of someone else.The aggressive driver on the road is someone’s child.Your partner is the child of someone.We are all children of someone else.When you frame people in that way, you start to think differently about them. When I think about my parents. I realize that their parents are gone, and would want me to do my best to look after their child. When I think about myself, I imagine my parents want me to do what I can to take care of their child. We are all someone else’s child.

A professional gets things done, serves others, and is compensated for that service. They approach their work with the mindset of “serve”. A professional’s work is art - not just anybody can do it; a professional is not just anybody.A commercial musician is a form of professional musician. They are skilled at playing all forms of music in all kinds of settings. They get compensated for that work. Their work is art because not just anybody can do it - they truly serve.Somewhere in the commercial musician’s wardrobe you’ll find black pants (typically black jeans) and a black shirt. It’s our blue collar uniform. Black-on-black, or “all blacks”, plays two important roles.It reminds the musician that it’s not about them, it’s about who they are a part of. It keeps the audience’s attention on the star. I started wearing this outfit years ago when I desired to be a commercial musician. I would see touring Broadway shows and spend most of my time watching the pit orchestra players - who wore all black - and imagined myself doing that work. It wouldn’t be about me, it would be about what I was a part of. You can wear your “all blacks” any time you want. You can approach your work and life like a commercial musician. Music is not self-service, always play the gig you were hired to play. Serve the show.

You’re allowed to experience anything… if you can sit with yourself and say, “Okay, I’m experiencing that, that’s okay, thank you for the moment, now let’s move on.”

I think another word for design is empathetically creating. It’s building something with intention. Good design keeps the questions, Who is this for and What is this for and Why do they care front and center. Good design is about service.If you’re not a details person, like me, remember that the work you build - that you design - is a service for those you seek to serve; they matter. Don’t skimp on the details.

Pausing to reflect on yesterday, a few days ago, or today.Stopping to breathe and notice our breath.Stopping to realize that we are alive.To notice our hands. To wonder what causes our fingers to move across the keyboard. What’s the force that makes that happen?To hear the clock ticking. Second after second. Moment by moment.Time is the one gift that once given can never be repaid. Stop and enjoy your time a bit more.