Brady Helps

You have 1000 things to do but no time.

Yes, we all have 1000 things to do and no time. There is an abundance of responsibility, but a scarcity of time to focus. You have no time to meet, but a thousand emails, alerts, and pings on your phone.You have no time to cook healthy food, but tons of time to stop at McDonald's, get Starbucks, and drink alcohol.You have no money for whole foods, but enough money to buy the latest gear. Scarcity and abundance coexist.You have time to do all the things you set your mind to do.You can focus on what's important if you choose. Consider you have one thing to do now and a thousand exciting possibilities that await you. But you can only pick one.Choose wisely.

But, what if it works?

You'll need to show up.You can no longer hide.You might be wrong.You could fail.The others will find out, and they'll talk.The world could be changed for the better.People's lives might be improved.You'll be seen as an expert.You'll be seen as a huckster.You'll be seen.You'll be heard.Taking a stand, doing something that matters, might mean many things. But what is for sure, you'll be seen and be heard.Sawubona.

You're not going to win them all.

... and that's alright! You're not going to get all of the jobs you applied for;You're not going to win all of the contracts you'd like; andYou're not going to triumph over every debate. But, if you adjust your mindset, you'll find opportunity.When you don't get the job you want, perhaps you need to target a company that aligns better with you?When you don't win business, perhaps you need to change your pitch? Or maybe they're not the right client for you?When you lose a debate, what did you learn from the other side? Turning losses into gains isn't a consolation prize. It's growth, and growth is life.

I use a pencil and paper to plan my life.

Have you heard of the EVO Planner? I use one, love it, and recommend it to all of those like me - the ones that need an effective tool to help them "do" life amidst a crazy schedule. Yes, I could use Outlook, Gmail, or another digital planner - but I don't. I don't because I enjoy the mindfulness of writing out where I've been, where I am now, and where I'm going. Writing out my plans on a piece of paper makes my thoughts real and concrete in a way that no other device can. For me, there's a "calm" seeing a "blank page" that's ready for me to imagine what life will be like later in the day, this week, this month or this quarter. I've written before about the mental GPS. Using tools like a planner, a pencil, and a piece of paper helps my GPS not only know where I've been, but where I am, and where I need to go. What do you use?

People make sense when you realize that they don't make sense.

Back in the 1930s, David Butler produced a movie-musical entitled, "Just Imagine."  

The movie describes a man that was struck by lightning in the 1930s, kept unconscious, and then revived 50 years later in the 80s! In this film, we see how people thought of what the future would appear.

Airplanes have replaced cars, people no longer have names - instead, they have handles, such as J-21, and meals come as a pill.  

This post is not about the plans replacing cars, handles replacing names (but funny how that's become a thing), nor is it about steak dinners - it's about being human.  

In our pursuit to make life more efficient, we look for ways to reduce - think Lean Six Sigma. How can we get from Point A to Point B faster? How can we reduce congestion on the freeways? How can we produce more for less? The classic American credo.  

Clearly, there was a time when we thought meals might come in the form of pills. They're convenient - we don't need to know how to cook, and many of us know how to take pills. If you look at the food now, you might even think we're well on our way there with processed foods such as high fructose corn syrup or American cheese. But then, why is craft-beer and sourdough bread becoming a thing again?

Because I enjoy baking bread, I can tell you that sourdough takes a tremendous amount of time and effort - especially if you're growing your own starter. It's incredibly inefficient when we could simply buy "Wonder" bread from the store, or make bread using a yeast packet. In our quest for efficiency as a race, how is bread becoming exempt?  

Because sourdough bread, and other artisanal products, are not about efficiency, nutrition, or the time it took to create. It's about the unspoken feeling, the magic, the delight, of eating sourdough bread.  

How we might feel towards artisan-crafted goods, such as sourdough, is how we might think about these everyday situations.   

Think about the frustration of waiting in line at the grocery store. We often think the stores don't have enough staff, or shoppers are acting rash. Are these really the causes?  

  • What if the experience of waiting was delightful?  
  • What if a grocery store created an app that showed real-time line length, toilet paper supply, and the best times to arrive for a quick in-and-out?  

Think about the frustrations of job searching. Recruiters aren't always great about getting back to us when we don't pass. Companies don't want to provide feedback because that creates legal risk.  

  • What if a prospective employer offered three takeaways we could use to help with future job searches?
  • What if a recruiter connected us with another role to check out?  

If supermarkets, or companies, instituted even one of these suggestions - how would you feel about job searching or grocery shopping?  

The logical answers are to add more staff or lines at the grocery store or protect the company from risk. The illogical answers are to create delight in a waiting line, invest in an app, or help another human find a job. They are also the answers that change the way people feel.  

This is not a manifesto against logic. But it's a reminder that logic isn't always the answer. Sometimes, the problem is not what we're being told, but what we can't see. We have to use empathy, hope, and stories to better understand one another - that which can't easily be quantified.  

As Separation ($s$) Increases ($Inc$), so to does demand for Connectedness ($c$) $$Inc(s,c)$$ As we become more and more separate, I believe the chances of us longing to be more and more connected will become proportionately greater. I hope we'll embrace that longing, do things that help us feel something better, and become more human.  

It might not make sense, but being human rarely does.

The language we use matters!

"I didn't know the food was yours," or,"I didn't look to see who the food belonged to." "I can't do it," or,"I will learn how to do this.""No one told me," or,"I didn't think to ask."The language you use to admit your faults matters. When you say, "I didn't know..." we are not acknowledging our inaction. Instead, saying, "I didn't look to see who the food belonged to," clearly shows our self-awareness and suggests what we can do to better ourselves in the future. Don't limit yourself by using vague language. Be specific. Be accountable.

You don't have to play the game the way it's always played.

A few days ago, I had occasion to speak with a talented soloist. She was sharing the struggles she and others were experiencing as they were navigating a new market.

The challenge is that the new market is tightly controlled by a few chokeholds - agents and an industry organization similar to the Tavern League.

Artist: "I either have to get an agent to represent and show me, or I need to pay a ton of money."

Me: "Who says you need to play by those rules, why not start your own agency with other soloists?"

You don't have to play the game the way it's always been played. This artist has a shared experience with others like her... others who are frustrated by the chokeholds. So, instead of complaining about the chokeholds, get rid of them by creating a cooperative of others like her - the economy of scale.

I hope they move forward with the idea. I know it would work. If she got 4 or 5 other artists together, their investment would be less than $200.00, compared to $1,000+ if it was just her. Also, because they would operate as a cooperative the customary 10-20% commission could go back into the general fund and be used to help other artists. It’s a win-win.

Next time you're stuck by the way the game is traditionally played, see if there's a way for you to leverage others, bring them together, and change the game.

The long game and limitations.

If you're looking to break out on your own, spread an idea, make a change - don't play for the short-term wins, play the long game. Short term wins are low hanging fruit, quick contracts, getting a job so that you can have a job - it's checking the boxes. The long game involves strategy - constantly evaluating failures and making better decisions in the future. It's doing things because they're the "right thing to do," focusing on creating something better, and never losing sight of "why" you do what you do. Our world is a bit different today than it was a month ago, and it's easy to frustrate. But don't lose hope. Focus on your long game.

Why doesn't your job work for you?

You don't work for your job. A job works for you! Yes, I also recruit for people looking to hire people for their jobs.Yes, I am confident that my clients would agree with me. Yes, even if they didn't, I don't care - the job works for you.I can tell you that, at least here in Milwaukee, there's a shortage of qualified talent for certain types of roles. With that said, employers can't afford to disengage their employees. With that said, it's a job seeker's market in many ways. I can tell you that I have met thousands of job seekers that don't know what they want in life. They look for a company with attractive values, but they don't know how to assert their values. People are looking through hundreds upon hundreds of job descriptions, but a job description won't say, "This is the job for people like you. Who wants to make the impacts you want to make." I can tell you that there are recruiters who don't care. They won't ask you about your mission, they won't ask you how you see yourself in the world, they won't directly tell you - "this isn't the job for you, but I know someone who might have the type of work you need to do." It's time to turn the table and give yourself permission to say, "I don't work for a job; a job works for me." Then begin asserting your values - how do you want to impact the world? What's the quality of work you want to perform? You've only got your life to live. You are responsible for the impacts you make on others. A job is only a vessel to help.

Do you need to talk to everybody in the room?

You could, but it might not help.  Ever been to these large gatherings where you're supposed to go and meet as many people as you can?  Walking around with a name tag, saying "hi" to people, sharing your elevator pitch, hearing theirs, trying to act interested, maybe setting up times to get coffee - the social formalities of meeting people. Done that before? For me, a shy (yes - I am shy) person, to do it is a fate worse than death.  Do you need to talk to everybody in the room?  I say no because not everyone matters.  In a room with hundreds of people, you can't be all things to everybody. You can be a meaningful specific, HT to Seth Godin and his influences for that term, to the ones who care about the work you do.  Recently, I attended a LinkedIn Local event about creating content. Because the invitee list was on LinkedIn, I took a moment to see who would be attending, and I made a few notes about the people I'd like to meet. Then, I reached out to those people in advance and asked if they'd like to connect.  Did I end up working the entire room? No.  Did I end up talking to a few people that actually cared about my work? Yes, and I also learned how to support the work of others.Also, if you’re in Milwaukee, consider checking out LinkedIn Local's next event.