If you love yourself.

It was one of those moments when I was in the car with Dad.

For the life of me, I can't remember what we were talking about.

We were on our way to the usual lunch joint - a hole-in-the-wall pub that my Dad proudly brags he's gone to off and on for 47 years - called the Nashotah Clubhouse. And it was on this drive that he gave me this advice.

"If you love yourself, you'll be more effective."

In the last few days, I was not the most effective version of myself. At least, not to my unhealthy standard. And as I was thinking about this story with my Dad, his advice came to my mind.

Perhaps I wasn't loving myself in the right way?

I spent more time trying to understand why I do things than loving myself and saying, “I’m going to make mistakes. I’m growing. It’s okay. It’s time to learn.”