I think we avoid confrontation because we fear connection.
When a relationship requires a confronting of truths a bubble is formed.
In that bubble, the parties in the relationship have the opportunity to confront or retreat. But, if one person decides to confront and the other retreats, the relationship stays in a stalemate. The bubble remains, and it gets bigger with time. If both parties confront the truths of the situation, the bubble eases and goes away.
People you and I know avoid confrontation. They let the bubble form, persist, and eventually, burst. Better to confront, release tension, and create space for connection.
It is an act of love to persevere through the discomfort of confrontation to find common ground.
