To approach a thing stoically can mean to approach a thing without feeling or in a temperate manner.
To approach a thing with a Stoic mindset can mean to deeply appreciate the experience of a thing and then move forward when it’s time to move forward.
I struggle to go through life with a small case stoic nature. I feel my experiences deeply, and I desire to appreciate those feelings to maximum extent possible. Perhaps I never want that small case experience.
Perhaps, one of the best lessons the death process teaches me is that maximizing the perception of the moment while being able to move forward — time doesn’t stop — is the best way for me to experience life. In fact, I wonder if I effectively move forward unless I allow myself to maximally experience the moment.
When I use maximize, I don’t mean to n’th degree every second of every day. I mean to do all I can to be present and allow life to unfold in front of me. To widen my mind and my heart’s aperture as much as I can. To perceive what I can, not judge it, and take a step forward.
Said another way — live each moment (responsibly) like it’s the last.